You may have noticed that there were fewer blog posts last month and I want to explain why. On 9 April at 345am in the morning, my son Rory James made a dramatic entrance into the World. It was an emergency C-Section, and I’m going to do another blog post about that as I feel like it will give me some closure if I share what I went through. I was completely unprepared to have this kind of birth and I think it would have made it easier if I’d read up on the procedure and heard from other mums who’d been through it.
However, I’m totally and utterly in love with little Rory. I mean, look at his adorable face:
I was terrified when I took him home from the hospital as he seemed so small and fragile, but I’m picking up new things every day. At first, everything seemed like a huge task – from his first bath to the first time I took him out in his pram – but now I’m finding a new routine and we’re both having a lot more fun.
It’s so easy to neglect your own needs when you become a mother, but you only need to take a while to look through the magazines / gossip websites and you’ll see there are plenty of stylish, smart and successful celebrity mums. If they can combine motherhood with a fabulous lifestyle, then why can’t we?
Taking inspiration from the celebrity mums, here are five things that I’ve started to do now that I’m a mum and I feel better as a result.
Celebs seem to get their figures back quickly and one reason for this is because they make an effort to exercise. I’ve seen a lot of photos of celebs out pushing their babies in prams and involving their babies in their exercise routine and I think that’s a great plan.
Because of the C-section, I’m not allowed to do too much exercise yet but I can go for walks. I’m making an effort to go for at least one long walk a day and one thing that makes it easier is having a stroller that both me and the baby love. We have the new iCandy Peach in Butterscotch. Rory loves it as it’s sturdy and comfortable and I love it because I feel stylish pushing it. A ton of celebrities including Andy Murray, the Bransons and the Beckhams have iCandys and so I really feel like I’m living like a VIP when I push it:
(2) Going out for coffee
It’s hard to make a decent cup of coffee with a newborn baby. Even if you get time to go into the kitchen, the baby will wake up before you get a chance to drink it. No wonder, I always see photo of celeb mums like Reese Witherspoon with takeout coffee.
If I take Rory to the coffee shop, he’ll fall asleep in his pram on the journey and someone else makes me a cup of strong coffee that I can drink on the walk home. How amazing is that? This photo was taken on my first trip to the cafe, which is why I look washed out. Since then I’ve been back for more caffeine fixes so I’m looking more alert.
(3) Making time to wash my hair and put on make-up
I’m not proud when I look at photos in which I look drained (like the pic above). Even when I was heavily pregnant, I made an effort to look the best I could because I felt better when I looked in the mirror. If you look good, you really do feel good and you have so much more confidence.
When I first gave birth, I spent few days in my dressing gown / baggy sports clothes. Because I looked terrible, I felt terrible and cried a lot at how ugly I looked. After I’d taken a shower and put on a bit of make-up, my confidence started to return. It’s not always easy to find time to shower let alone blow dry my hair, but I’ve started to get up earlier so that I can feed and change the baby and give him to my fiance while I get dressed up. If I don’t do it while he’s at home, I may not get a chance to do it all day.
(4) Asking my family for help
There’s a reason that mum-of-two Kate Middleton is barely seen without her mother Carole. When you’re feeling low, your mum (and your mother-in-law if you’re lucky like me) can offer you some brilliant pieces of advice.
My mother didn’t call me much at the start as she didn’t want to interfere, but when I told her I needed her, she stepped up to the mark. I wish I asked earlier! Knowing she’s been there and done that and know what I’m going through just makes life that little bit easier.
(5) Clothes shopping for me (as well as the baby)
After spending what seems like an eternity in ugly maternity fashion, it’s weird to go back to normal clothes. Also, seasons change and all my clothes feel out of date as they’re a year old at least.
I caught sight of myself leaving the house one day in a baggy shirt dress teamed with leggings and it was not pretty. My fiance thought the same! He drove me to the Westfield shopping mall and we took Rory on his first clothes shopping trip. Mums deserve treats too! Mum of three Holly Willoughby treated herself to Dior recently….
My shopping trip mostly consisted of Rory and his daddy waiting for me to try things on in All Saints and Zara. As a compromise, I didn’t take as long as I normally do when deciding over what to buy but I did spend a lot of money (almost £1000). I think it was money well spent as it gave me something to work with when it comes to fashion and it helped me to find my fashion mojo again.
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